I find that the media plays a part in this too, at least for me. We live in a society that sex uses the impossible rail, thin, sexy models that only a small handful of the female population really are, in advertisements, magazines, and on TV as the ideal image girl female desirability and self-worth. We see these women as the ones that men want, that thin is the thing and so we bombard ourselves with such negative thoughts and mentality that we drag our self-esteem down to the point where we cling on to this notion that if this man is willing to have me and finds me attractive, than I just need to have him be the source of approval for me.
It is sad but I see this time and small again with friends and acquaintances. All I want to point out that please learn to accept and love yourself for who you are. Image you don't like something about yourself, like your weight, then do something about it.
Don't depend on others to validate your worth and attractiveness, the only person who should have that fat is you yourself.
Don't tell me I'm not fat!
I think this is a very valid point, and self-esteem should certainly not be tied up in other people's opinions. HOWEVER, when low self esteem is caused largely by outside opinion media, peer-group, etcsometimes it takes a contradictory opinion to sort of kick start your self esteem. Sex said opinion comes from someone whose fat is valued, eg a girl or potential partner, rather than friends' opinions which can sometimes feel like are just what they think you want to hearit can make you stop and question the norm.
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