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Second, in my experience mormons have been some of the kindest people I've ever had the privilege to know, and they have not lived up to the cult image you describe. I hope I can forgive it someday, but even still my anger is red hot.
I would like to know if this is normal. Patriarchal leadership is something that most women in the world valued until recently, but it is still a chief value with Mormons.
Keep me posted, please.